General Gayety: This Week's Quote

General Gayety: This Week's Quote: "I made some studies, and reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it. Jane Wagner Source: The Search for Signs ..."

There is nothing fun about being gay. The good majority are racist,bigoted, judgmental,non supportive, cliqued up and impossible to get to know. The ones I've met don't even like themselves. I haven't met not one woman who has any sense of good self esteem. And I've been out as a lesbian for over 20... years!

The truth about Alcoholics Anonymous

This blog has been a very long time in coming.

The truth about Alcoholics Anonymous must be told in the event that those of you

lucky enough to have left AA and are still reeling from the negative & damaging brainwashing that leads you to doubt who you are or far worse lead you to suicide which is the way the good majority of people take after the intimidation,bullying,and all out abuse that takes place inside & outside the rooms of AA.

First let me tell you that I used to be a part of AA on two occassions actually three.

The first time I attended an AA meeting I was lured under false pretenses. While enjoying lunch at a restaurant I was approached by someone I knew & liked alot I was flattered that this person came to talk to me and pay me some attention.   From what I remember this person mentioned about bringing me somewhere I believe it was a social event.

Now understand that I was young just out on my own.  I had not much family outside my Mother but she had tremendous emotional problems so I wasn't talking much to her.  I had no friends and spent the majority of time all alone.  

So, I wanted to go to this event which turned out to be an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

From what little I remember because this happened in 1988 the meeting was weird, the people talked funny,it was like going to a planet full of aliens.

The next time I went to AA I was at a low point in my life I was still dealing with the lonliness and that year, I also came back from a trip from out of town that went sour.

Why did I go? Well I was feeling vulnerable I had no where to go and I was looking for support.

From the moment I rejoined AA I received the following.

This alleged support that your supposed to get from AA comes from the fellowship when these so called good folks put their phone number in the meeting schedule book.

"Oh feel free to call remember one day at a time" blah,blah,blah these 12 steppers are good at shoveling the horseshit.  They should consider public office because all you can count from the good people of AA is lots & lots of bullshit.

So, I'm calling a person off my list and what I get on the other end is nothing short of rude.

Excuses like "I'm busy"

"I'm throwing a party I don't have time" 

I go to call someone else and I get pretty much the same blow off.

Here is my advice to all of you out there considering A.A. these people ARE FULL OF LIES.

Don't believe a fucking word that they have to say.

It's that plain & simple.

Also

A.A. is full of and I mean full of people cruising for a hook up or for sex.

I'm not kidding you all.

And, let me tell you this NO ONE IS SAFE.

Not a hetrosexual man

or

a

hetrosexual woman, not a gay man, not a gay woman

Even young teens boys or girls don't put them in a room full of adults.

The young teen Might be safe in a youth teen meeting but don't hold you breath on that one.

I've arrived at one Friday night meeting feeling extremely vulnerable,hurt,lonely to find two women making out at the meeting.  The secretary of the meeting & her girlfriend before people started showing up.

I myself have been stalked by someone who had an amorous crush on me, but I wasn't interested.

I was followed by this woman into a public library!  

No matter how much I did to ignore her she would sit by me, try to get me to share the A.A. Big Book in a meeting which is the bible for A.A.

Last straw was when one day after a meeting ended with two women trying to beat each others brains out over what I have no idea, I am walking REAL fast over towards my Mom she had agreed to pick me up after a meeting one day..

So I'm walking over to my Mom's car and who should be calling out my name and RUNNING OVER TO ME like I'm a fire that she cannot wait to put out, but the clingy,woman who has the crush.

She comes over to me wanting a hug (just an excuse to feel me up, but clever) then she starts in with the waterworks around her eyes.

This woman then proceeds to stick her head thru the passenger side of my mothers car  (Mom had the window down it was a warm day)

And starts talking to her!  My Mom was a good sport about it all Mom was nice to her. 

But for me witnessing this whole spectacle I was mortified!  I didn't even know this woman and she was acting extremely crazy, I was both angered & scared.

Then she tells me that I can call her!  lol yeah right.  I wanted to tell her real badly "Yeah right I'll give you a call crazy woman".

There is also misogyny from men that have some issues with women and they aren't shy to talk about them even at the risk of shaming women in the room!!  

MEN, GO TO A MENS MEETING TO TALK ABOUT YOUR ISSUES WITH WOMEN.

Racism goes on in the meetings, the caucasions stick to their own and if you aren't white well don't expect anything from the good ole white folks of A.A. these people are in keeping with Bill W. racist belief of racial segregation.

Speaking of the late but not so great Bill W. he was a womanizer to the extreme degree.

And he was married! And these crazy 12th steppers want to follow this narcissitic son of a bitch?

So in conclusion this is what one can expect from a 12th step meeting:

Sexual harassment

clingy people looking for someone to take care of them

Misogyny

Racism

behind the scenes matchmaking, so potential "arranged matchmaking"

It's encouraged behind the doors of the 12th step halls.  It's true.

There are other alternatives to staying sober don't listen to the 12 steppers.

There are other alternatives.

One of them is Rational Recovery

Women in Sobriety.

Run don't walk away from A.A. and their crazy ways staying with them could lead

to an early grave.

Remember your okay, but if you hang around a bunch of ex dopers,drunks whose only positive behavior change is that they're no longer drinking, your still left with a real toxic person.

In AA.

They are racists

Users of other people

AA 12th steppers always have an ulterior motive.

Thats it for now folks.